"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it is asking others to live as one wishes to live." -Oscar Wilde In this quote, Wilde poetically hits at the heart of selfishness. Said another way, selfishness is the tendency to expect someone else to live according to your values, rather than their own. Of course, to be selfish is a human trait—which means every one of us expresses it f…Read More
When we think about how to express our love over the holidays, we often get caught up on grand gestures like expensive gifts or fancy dinners out. But, it's the little day to day gestures that build connection and communicate how much we care. These small acts of kindness take little to no time at all and help ensure that your spouse feels how much you appreciate them during the most wonderful ti…Read More
If you’ve ever built a fire, then you know that the kindling process is very important. Once the smallest spark comes to life, a blazing fire is born. As the fire reaches its peak, maintaining the heat takes careful concentration and finesse. If not frequently stoking it, the fire will fizzle out. The same can be said about relationships. Neglecting it for too long is a sign that you might nee…Read More
Couples that don’t reconnect, disconnect. It’s important to stay on top of your relationship constantly, yet with life’s hustle and bustle, it’s hard work to focus on your marriage all the time. Reality check- marriage is hard work, so don’t make excuses for not spending quality time with one another. Make it a non-negotiable. Here are 10 speedy ways to connect daily so your relationship…Read More
What does self-love mean to you? Self-love is complicated. It's not always self-like. In my opinion, it's not looking in the mirror and declaring that I'm happy with every single part of me—that's unrealistic. But it is knowing that I am a complex being whose needs evolve daily, and that's a beautiful thing. And as complicated as it is to find happiness in you as a person, it’s a must end-g…Read More
Between 40 percent and 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce, but this rate is falling -- perhaps due to the excellent marriage counseling services now available. More and more people are seeking the help of a third party before things break down. As a result of professional intervention, relationships are being rebuilt before the 'D' word is ever mentioned. If your relationship has h…Read More
The word "divorce" is enough to send chills down your spine. No one expects to break the vows made on a wedding day of hopeful promises and wedded bliss but many marriages do ultimately end with lawyers, court hearings and negotiated paperwork that decides -- among other things -- who gets the dog. If you have reached the point where your only option is to continue the unhappiness of being with yo…Read More
There is no doubt that divorce has dire consequences on individuals and families, yet those who have failed at marriage can succeed at divorce. Individuals and children affected can emerge from divorce emotionally healthy and resilient when parents make the conscientious decision to manage the divorce process in a responsible and logical manner. Dr. Robert Emery, a leading researcher on divorce an…Read More
Don’t let the pressure of Hallmark’s cheery, over-the-top and in-your-face holiday campaigns fool you. For many, this time of year can take even MORE work to pull off a successful season ahead. With increased stress to get along with family members, pick the most well thought-out gift and keep holiday cheer at a maximum, it’s no wonder that some families crash and burn each time. Families ha…Read More
Infidelity is one of the most devastating blows to a relationship’s foundation. Couples often want to know, “Can my marriage be saved after an affair?” In his book, “What Makes Love Last,” by couples researcher Dr. John Gottman, he seeks to answer that question based on years of research on the concept of trust. Here are some of the book’s most significant findings. Before According to…Read More