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  1. New Year Relationship Reboot 2022: 5 Inspiring Couple Goals to Help Your Marriage Thrive This Year

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    I don't know about you, but I actually really like New Years resolutions.  Yes, they get a bad rap. We see headline after headline about the dismal follow-through that people seem to have around these New Year, New Me commitments—for instance, that fewer than 8% of people actually stick to their goals (apparently) or that most people end up giving up on their aims before the end of January—a…Read More

  2. Breaking Free From Damaging Relationship Patterns With The One You Love

    When you argue with your spouse, does it ever feel like Groundhog Day? Do you ever shake your head in disbelief, wondering why you're having this same disagreement yet again? Hitting the same marital roadblock over and over may relate to a perpetual problem between you and your spouse. Perpetual problems—which even healthy couples have—are difficult if not impossible to solve (though not …Read More

  3. How to talk about world issues and home issues as a couple

    Do things feel heavy to you right now? They do for me, too. When so many difficult issues are going on in the world—including the environment, Afghanistan, politics, COVID-1, and the mental health crisis—it can sometimes feel like you're shouldering these burdens on your own. And even with a supportive spouse, it can be tricky figuring out how to create healthy conversations about these tou…Read More

  4. Do Opposites Really Attract- And Is That a Problem?

    The introvert falls for the extrovert. The one who loves to save marries the one who loves to shop. The "glass half full" kind of person finds their "glass half empty" partner. Are these relationships destined to thrive—or doomed to fail? When Opposites Attract Magnets—sure. But as far as human relationships go, the idea that "opposites attract" seems to be little more than an interestin…Read More

  5. Feeling Angry at Your Spouse—Let’s Talk About It

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    Do you ever get angry at your spouse? For most of us, the answer is a resounding yes. We're human, after all, and anger is a normal human emotion. But while feeling angry isn't inherently bad, anger can have a negative impact on your marriage if it's not dealt with well. When You're Angry and You Know It: Why it's Normal and What To Do (And NOT Do) About It If you have this idea that healthy c…Read More

  6. Are You in a Sexless Marriage?

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    A "sexless marriage" can mean different things to different couples. But what all sexless marriages have in common is a lack of physical intimacy that leaves one or both partners feeling alienated, unsatisfied, and disconnected.  The feeling of disconnect is key. After all, a lack of sex is not necessarily a problem if both partners aren't bothered by it. But when lack of sexual intimacy be…Read More

  7. Is My Relationship One-Sided?

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    Many people assume that for two partners to be healthy and thriving together, there needs to be a 50/50 split in terms of energy, love, and effort. I invite you to think about it as 100/100. In other words, both partners put in their best effort to commit to and nurture a healthy bond. Of course, your best efforts will fluctuate at times—and that's okay. Factors like stress at work or a poor nig…Read More

  8. How to Set (and Respect) Boundaries With Your Spouse

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    Here's a simple truth: All healthy relationships have healthy boundaries.  You see, boundaries aren't restricting or limiting. Boundaries provide the freedom to express your needs and values while also honoring the needs and values of your partner. Setting boundaries is: The essential antidote to codependency A prerequisite for emotional well-being A learnable skill that determines the succe…Read More

  9. My Spouse is In The Mood But I’m Not—What Should I Do?

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    How often should you and your spouse have sex? The answer: As often as it takes for you both to feel satisfied—which, according to a 2015 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science, is about once a week for most happily married couples. Of course, you and your partner might have sex more often than this, which is great. Just know you don't have to hold yourselves to t…Read More

  10. Is Someone Gaslighting You? How to Recognize This Deceptive Behavior (And What to Do About It)

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    Have you ever felt (or were told) that you're "going crazy"? Maybe there was something "off" about a prior relationship you can't put your finger on. Perhaps your current partner frequently says things like "You're not remembering that correctly" or "That's not how it happened." While subtle, these signs often point to an underlying interpersonal dynamic that can be extremely detrimental. Read on …Read More