Here’s how people often describe me and what I’m all about:

• People feel safe with me. With me in their corner, they’re willing to be vulnerable and honest with each other, even—and often especially—when it’s hard.
• I help couples explore and express their shared goals, dreams, and values. The phrase, “I’m bigger than the sum of my parts” comes to mind here. With me as a primary foundation in their lives, couples are truly able to grow and do some amazing things together!
• At the same time, I’m big enough for people to pursue their own interests and hobbies, too. Since I feel and function like a safe space, people feel free and empowered to express their own individuality without sacrificing the important bond they share with their partners. Partners have their own identities and lives outside of me, yet still call me home. It’s a great balance!
• Insults, yelling, name-calling, and abuse of any kind are complete strangers to me. I don’t know ’em, and frankly, I don’t care to. Same goes for excessive criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—the so-called four horsemen of relationships. When these types of interactions become more frequent, I know I’m in trouble.
• I’m fun! I tend to hear a lot of laughter. I come with a lot of inside jokes, favorite memories, and good stories.
• I’m not always easy—nothing worthwhile ever is—and sometimes my waters can get a little choppy. But people who know me aren’t afraid to ask for help, work as a team, and find the right tools and support to get through the occasional rough patches. And overall, the good times still outweigh the bad!

Finally, folks who know me almost always say that I’m one of the most important and treasured things in their lives. I have a big impact on people and their mental and even physical well-being. And I have to say…I’m really proud of that!