June 18, 2025 Newsletter

More Than Just “I’m Sorry”: 5 Repair Rituals That Bring Couples Closer
Estimated read time: 6 minutes
Every couple messes up.
You’ll say things you regret. You’ll misread each other. You’ll miss the mark.
But what sets strong couples apart is this:
They know how to come back.
Here are five small but powerful repair rituals that rebuild trust and deepen connection — without needing a grand apology or long talk.
💌 1. The “I See You” text
After tension or a disagreement, send a simple message:
“That was tough. I love you and I’m here.”
“Thanks for sticking with me even when it’s messy.”
⏱ 2. The one-minute bedtime check-in
Before sleep:
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“Anything left unsaid today?”
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“Anything I could’ve done better?”
You don’t have to solve everything — just clear the air.
🫶 3. The repair touch
Physical connection helps calm the nervous system.
A soft hand squeeze or hug after a tough moment can say, “We’re still okay.”
🎭 4. The do-over
“Can I try that again with more kindness?”
Giving each other permission to reframe a clumsy moment is powerful.
🎉 5. The post-repair ritual
Once you’ve repaired, celebrate the connection:
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Make a favorite meal
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Watch a show
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Go on a walk
This turns healing into bonding.
These rituals don’t need to be perfect.
They just need to be real.
Because love isn’t about never getting it wrong — it’s about always finding your way back.