June 18, 2025 Newsletter

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More Than Just “I’m Sorry”: 5 Repair Rituals That Bring Couples Closer

Estimated read time: 6 minutes

Every couple messes up.

You’ll say things you regret. You’ll misread each other. You’ll miss the mark.

But what sets strong couples apart is this:

They know how to come back.

Here are five small but powerful repair rituals that rebuild trust and deepen connection — without needing a grand apology or long talk.

💌 1. The “I See You” text

After tension or a disagreement, send a simple message:

“That was tough. I love you and I’m here.”

“Thanks for sticking with me even when it’s messy.”

⏱ 2. The one-minute bedtime check-in

Before sleep:

  • “Anything left unsaid today?”

  • “Anything I could’ve done better?”

You don’t have to solve everything — just clear the air.

🫶 3. The repair touch

Physical connection helps calm the nervous system.

A soft hand squeeze or hug after a tough moment can say, “We’re still okay.”

🎭 4. The do-over

“Can I try that again with more kindness?”

Giving each other permission to reframe a clumsy moment is powerful.

🎉 5. The post-repair ritual

Once you’ve repaired, celebrate the connection:

  • Make a favorite meal

  • Watch a show

  • Go on a walk

This turns healing into bonding.

These rituals don’t need to be perfect.

They just need to be real.

Because love isn’t about never getting it wrong — it’s about always finding your way back.