Marriage and Couples Therapy
Even the strongest relationships go through periods where couples feel lonely, stuck, and at the end of their rope. Not only are the competing demands of work, kids and family life vying for your time and attention, but external factors like blended family dynamics, addiction issues, depression and unexpected life circumstances attempt to threaten an otherwise healthy relationship.
Losing the ability to identify signs of struggle, loving and committed couples often ask “How did we get here?”
When the bond between a couple is restored, a happier, more successful relationship emerges. Mending the fabric of your relationship is possible. Couples counseling provides an opportunity to improve communication, manage conflict effectively and strengthen intimacy and friendship.
Here are some common warning signs that your relationship might be in trouble:
- Spinning your wheels in frustration, looking for resolution but accomplishing nothing
- Communication problems that include lack of progress, shutting down, or increased hostility
- Worrying that your future dreams, goals, and aspirations are not aligned
- Betrayal, infidelity, or trust issues
- Feeding into the “grass is greener” fallacy by having thoughts of leaving, finding someone “better” or perhaps already being involved in an emotional affair
- Lack of love, passion, intimacy, and romance
In marriage counseling, we don’t focus a lot on details. Instead, we dig deeper for what’s going on underneath the surface of unhealthy communication patterns and failed repair attempts. Couples therapy evokes the opportunity for a different dialogue; one that reveals and breaks the cycle that keeps you stuck and limits progress. Having a strong foundation of friendship that safeguards the relationship from future pitfalls of loneliness, isolation, and disconnect is an important part of the change process. After all, the relationship you have with your partner is one of the most important relationships you will ever have, so whether you’re newly married or empty nesters, invest the time and energy to be one another’s top priority.
While most therapists say they work with couples, I know how to skillfully work with couples. I’ve been trained under some of the most rigorous and highly effective therapeutic models around. Using cutting-edge research and practice, the results of my work are extremely positive and long-lasting.
I provide compassionate and individualized couples and marriage counseling for those looking to mend, heal, and overcome past resentments and disappointments that have built up over time. Together, we will identify your current relationship struggles and find better ways of responding to one another for a more satisfying relationship.
Additional couples therapy issues that I help address:
“Loving and successful relationships don’t happen by chance. They are a result of ongoing commitment, devotion, hard work and continuous effort.”
I am trained in Levels I, II and III Gottman therapy. Couples often find this theoretically-based approach highly effective and rewarding. The practical strategies from this method are helpful for couples needing tangible steps they can utilize right away to see immediate benefits and results.
By incorporating the basic principles of Gottman therapy in my work, I hope to show couples that successful and loving relationships are founded on healthy conflict management, a deep and steady friendship, and being able to support one another’s hopes and dreams.
Gottman-Method Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Utilizing what has been coined the most advanced relationship science to date, Emotionally Focused Therapy relates our early attachments in childhood to how we function in our adult relationships. Research from this approach has found that over 70 percent of couples went from distressed to happy. Over 90 percent of couples significantly improved their relationships in just a few short months. Results from this form of couples and marriage counseling are long-standing and out-match all other forms of therapy that focus on couples. Couples who have gone through the EFT method are able to trust their relationship bond, learn to lean into one another in times of despair, and strengthen and deepen their attachments to each other.