May 14, 2025 Newsletter

Is Your Relationship Lacking Play?
When was the last time you and your partner played? Not made plans. Not managed chores. Not co-parented or coordinated schedules. But actually let go, laughed, and got silly together?
In the early stages of a relationship, playfulness comes naturally. There are inside jokes, spontaneous adventures, and endless curiosity. But over time—especially when life gets full—fun can quietly slip away. And when play disappears, so can some of the joy and emotional safety in the relationship.
Why Play Matters
Play isn't just for kids. In fact, it's a powerful relational tool that nurtures:
Connection
Joy
Resilience
Emotional intimacy
Engaging in play tells your partner: “We can still laugh together. We can still enjoy each other.” It brings levity during heavy seasons and reminds both people of their shared spark.
Research shows that couples who continue to play together report higher levels of relationship satisfaction, greater emotional regulation, and a stronger bond during times of stress.
Signs Your Relationship Might Need More Play
Conversations have become all about logistics
You rarely laugh together anymore
Date nights feel routine or non-existent
The relationship feels more like a task than a source of joy
Simple Ways to Reintroduce Play
The good news? Reintroducing play doesn’t require a weekend getaway or major budget. Try:
Dancing in the kitchen while cooking dinner
Creating inside jokes or couple’s code words
Inventing silly dares or games just for each other
Trying something new together, like a class or a playful challenge
Play can be goofy, creative, spontaneous, or even competitive—the key is that it feels light-hearted and mutual.
And if play feels awkward at first? That’s okay. Sometimes we forget how to be playful because life has asked us to be so serious for so long. It’s like a muscle—once you start using it again, it strengthens.
Making Play a Ritual
Instead of waiting for “the right time,” build small moments of fun into your routine. A weekly board game night, a spontaneous text with a meme, or a monthly surprise date idea can keep the spirit of joy alive.
✨ Play reminds us that love doesn’t always have to be hard work—it can be light, fun, and filled with laughter, too.