1. Is Someone Gaslighting You? How to Recognize This Deceptive Behavior (And What to Do About It)

    Have you ever felt (or were told) that you're "going crazy"? Maybe there was something "off" about a prior relationship you can't put your finger on. Perhaps your current partner frequently says things like "You're not remembering that correctly" or "That's not how it happened." While subtle, these signs often point to an underlying interpersonal dynamic that can be extremely detrimental. Read on …Read More

  2. 3 Reasons Why Vulnerability is So Important for Healthy Relationships

    Imagine this scenario: You notice your partner seems anxious about something. You're not sure what's going on, but all day they've been acting agitated and on edge. How do you respond? Is there a part of you that begins to worry or perceive their mood as a rejection of you? What do you say to your partner about your concerns—if anything? Do you reach out, even if you're not sure how? Part…Read More

  3. How Negativity Can Ruin Relationships

    It's not hard to imagine how negativity can be damaging for a healthy relationship. The problem is, we see so many examples of negative interactions between couples—on television, in movies, and in "real life"—that nagging, teasing, criticizing, or speaking poorly of our partners (even if you're "just joking") can start to seem like normal behavior. And sure, maybe negativity is "normal" or a…Read More

  4. How To Know If You’ve Found The One

    When dating someone new, the feelings you experience as you get to know each other can be incredibly exciting. And once you're out of the "honeymoon phase," the next stage of your relationship can be just as rewarding—the time to build a deeper bond grounded in trust and genuine love. But even when genuine love is there, it's understandable to have some worries about the future. Is this perso…Read More

  5. Finding Forgiveness For Your Spouse

    How important is forgiveness? Research shows that the ability to seek and give forgive your spouse is an essential component to healthy and fulfilling relationship. Of course, you don't have to be in an intimate relationship to know that forgiveness can be a challenging gift to give, although being hurt by someone you love deeply can be exceptionally distressing. Even so, forgiveness truly is a …Read More

  6. Having A Healthy Relationship When One Partner Has A Mental Illness

    Nearly half of adults experience a mental illness at least once in their lifetime. Research and practical experience tells us that mental illness can cause a person to have decreased quality of life, decreased productivity and employment, and even impaired physical health. A mental illness—including post-traumatic stress disorder, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and a…Read More

  7. How To Know If You’re In A Co-dependent Relationship

    Many people are confused by the word "codependency." When they hear it, they think it simply means that a person is "clingy" and needy. But in fact, codependency is considered a specific and harmful mental and behavioral condition. It frequently has a generational pattern within families and is often referred to as "relationship addiction." Changing the dynamics of a codependent relationship ca…Read More

  8. Is Alcohol Impacting Your Relationship?

    During an interview on the popular podcast The Tim Ferriss Show, famous entrepreneur and businessman Sir Richard Branson once suggested a simple yet important thought experiment to listeners. We'll paraphrase that thought experiment here: Think back to the few biggest mistakes or arguments of your marriage. Now think how many of them occurred when one or both of you were under the influence of …Read More

  9. Friendships and Relationships: Why They’re Both Essential for Your Health (And The Health of Your Marriage)

    Being friends with your spouse is a gift and directly benefits you both. As relationship researcher and psychologist Dr. John Gottman has said, "Happy marriages are based on a deep friendship." But all too often, as couples deepen their bond and spend more and more time together, the other friendships they had prior to the primary relationship start to fall away. Is this a bad thing? Not necess…Read More

  10. Marriage Has No Room For Selfishness

    "Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live; it is asking others to live as one wishes to live." -Oscar Wilde In this quote, Wilde poetically hits at the heart of selfishness. Said another way, selfishness is the tendency to expect someone else to live according to your values, rather than their own. Of course, to be selfish is a human trait—which means every one of us expresses it f…Read More